Your limiting beliefs are telling your brain that you care too much about what others think
Mar 10, 2024
What are limiting beliefs? Basically, they are what is holding you back from doing what you want. The limiting beliefs were born from the adversities that you encountered in the past. And as human beings, we were built to flee from danger. But what is this century’s danger really? WE think of being embarrassed as a sort of fear. So we literally fear being embarrassed or uncomfortable. And therefore, we limit ourselves with beliefs that we have carried from things of the past.
There were 3 events in my life that I had to really make a big decision. And one of them was to consider divorce.
I left him. Yup, even after declaring to the world, that I was committed to a man, forever, I still left him.
My first husband was somebody that was totally not for me. When I think back, I think I knew it too.
First mistake, I was stubborn.
Everyone else knew he wasn’t for me, but I had to prove them wrong.
I broke a lot of relationships because I cared too much about what others thought, except went the other route, only to be stubborn.
The second event: actually, divorce him.
Now, that I realized that if I just listened to my own heart, without paying attention to what others thought, I would be much happier.
So, I had to admit that they were “right”, by getting a divorce.
Not only was I going to be admitting I made a mistake, but I was afraid of disappointing my family and my friends and my parents.
And then of course, after any divorce, what am I going to do now? I wanted a family at the time, and I was ending a marriage, and that might have meant having children might have to wait, or in my case, not happen.
Then the third decision that I needed to make was, listening to my heart, and not having children.
Luckily, that was an easier decision, because I was already with another man, who married me for me, for the all-so-conventional reason a lot of people get married, like having kids.
I still had to deal with the comments, like, “Oh you’re still young, you can still have kids.” And when I had to explain, that, “No we don’t want to have kids,” I either got the “you’ll change your mind,” look, or the puzzled look that says, “what, you don’t want the homemade pie that I made with my two hands, that I brought to you” look.
When I ponder on these life decisions, I basically attribute them to my past, I really cared too much about what other people thought. A lot of people struggle with this, and they don't even know that they struggle with it. I think that a lot of people make decisions because they think they want it but really, it's because they were taught at a young age to make certain decisions without questioning it.
You're a beautiful person, and you should be living up to your potential.
The next time you decide that you want to try something different, that maybe you felt that other people might not understand, that's a limiting belief.
How awesome would it be if nothing stopped you from living your best self?
Truly, the only thing that might be stopping you, is really….you.