How to Crack the Code to Stop Caring About What Others Think of Me
Mar 10, 2024
If I don't want what you have, then why should it matter what you tell me what you think I should be doing?
This was the biggest ah-ha moment when I started to think about why I care so much about what others think or say about me. Truly, if I really envied what you have, then I should be asking how you are so successful, and what tangible things you did to achieve all you have. Sounds logical, no?
But I also think that what I have “conjured” up in my head about what others think about me is half the problem. The keyword is THINK.
I have never really had anyone who I cared about, give me unsolicited advice. In fact, the only time someone assumed anything about me was my previous manager, at my last job that I had for 20 years. And this one time where I received their opinion of me, was the most offensive experience time in my life. Luckily, I had made the choice to leave my job, and be free to be myself.
This was once.
Every other time when I thought someone judged me, was simply a thought that I had. How many times do we convince ourselves that people will judge us, and that stops us from becoming our best selves?
So basically, the reason that we may not “try” anything, is because we are afraid of what others “might” think. Many times, we do not attempt new things because we are afraid. WE are afraid of things that have not happened yet.
If you think about it, it can be compared to when we were kids and afraid to go to sleep because we are afraid of the monsters that we think are under our beds, or in our closets. And when our parents check the room or convince us that there were no monsters in our room, we then decide it is safe to fall asleep.
Can you imagine if we continued in life feeling afraid of monsters under the bed, what that might do to our confidence in adulthood?
Too many times we are afraid of the “monsters” that are really created in our thoughts to even take a step forward into something new and exciting.
Just like our parents who convince us that there are no such things as monsters, we should be telling ourselves that our fears of what others will think of us is truly just a thought, NOT reality.
I still sometimes struggle, when I feel like I need to take any action that will make me feel uncomfortable, but to snap me back out of that thought, I think of the “WHY” I need to take action, and that always helps me take the step outside of my comfort zone.
Life does not need to be about being afraid to live but can be about living our best selves, even if it means being afraid.
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